Groom’s best man embarrasses the bride at pre-wedding dinner, she uninvites him to the wedding: “He’s one of those dudes who peaked in high school and is insufferable”

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Briana Viser • Writer and Editor
Apr 16, 2025 2:00 PM EDT

Ladies and gentlemen of the internet, welcome. Weddings are some of the best, most special and exciting things. Not only is it one huge party with tones of different people, but it's a day celebrating love and the union between two people. It's beautiful and sacred, and socially important to be in a good mood. It's like a birthday party in that way, it's a setting where everyone is more or less forced to stay in a good mood, be nice to each other, smile, and have a good time. Without these things, you're kind of the mean one at the party, and no one likes that. 

In today's day and age, canceling people is just as popular as scrolling Netflix. Someone says one thing out of line to you, and bam! They're uninvited to your special birthday party, your wedding, or they're just out of your life completely. Sound dramatic and petty? Yes. But do we still do it? I guess so. 

In the story below, it centers around a dramatic and petty woman. Sure, her fiance's friend did say something insulting. So, just tell him not to talk to you like that? Why this passive aggressive punishment as if you're his mother and you're trying to teach him a lesson? Be an adult. 

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    AITA for telling my fiancé I don’t want his best man coming to our wedding after what he did at my birthday dinner?

    "Why should I let him stand next to the man I'm marrying?"
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    So I'm (29F) and my fiance (31M) and we have been together for 4 years. We are planning our wedding for later this year which has been going great except for one person. His best friend kyle.
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  • Who else thinks this woman is insane and dramatic? She's not this guy's mother who's trying to punish him and teach him a lesson. Be an adult. If he said something that offended you you don't have to pretend like it's okay, and then go behind is back and punish him. Just tell him to his face not to speak to you like that and be done with it. 

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    kyle is one of those dudes who peaked in high school and is so insufferable. He is always making unnecessary jokes that seem like insults tbh. But my fiance says he's just goofy and immature and so I've tried to keep my peace.
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    Anyway my birthday was two weeks ago. Nothing big happened just a dinner at a nice restaurant with close friends and family. Near the end of it someone mentioned the wedding and how everything was going and my fiance answered and said we were writing our own vows. I said I was nervous but excited.
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    Then kyle said loudly. I think everyone present in the restaurant heard it that's how loud he was "Just don't cry halfway through your vows like you did during your breakup remember that?" The table went de_d silent.
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    In the moment I laughed it off cause i didn't want to create a scene there. But I was humiliated. My dad was present there and my fiance was aware of that breakup it was ab ive and traumatic. I later told him how hurt I was and he said kyle was just being kyle and you know how he is babe.
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    So I sat on it for a few days even though i was hurt. But then finally I told him I don't want kyle at the wedding. Not at the rehearsal. Not giving a speech Nothing. Nowhere I just don't want him there.
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    Now my fiance is saying I'm overreacting. That kyle was just trying to be funny and kicking him off the list would destroy our 15years of friendship.
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    But honestly If kyle can not respect me then why should I allow him to stand next to the man I'm marrying.
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    So AITA for refusing to have kyle at the wedding after all this?
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    angeleeternelle • 16h ago NTA. I hate when people like this get away with their terrible behaviour because their closest people say "oh, that's just how they are!" as if you have to tolerate the disrespect because they don't know any better. He
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    can't respect you at dinner in a restaurant, he won't respect you at your wedding. I'd be afraid he does something HE thinks is funny which would ruin it.
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    Perfect-Quarter8... • 16h ago Best believe Kyle WILL ruin your wedding. He's a good old fashioned attention who gets off of being obnoxious
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    K... 16h ago • Edited 16h ago • I feel information is missing. Why does Kyle have such knowledge of a breakup with a previous partner? Was your now fiancé present at the breakup? Was Kyle?
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    Does Kyle know because your fiancé told him? The answer to this might shine a different light on your fiancé.
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    Regardless, it's your fiancé's place to have a grown up talk with Kyle. You can't dictate who his best man is. He, the fiancé needs to make it clear that he needs to treat you, his future spouse, with respect. If he is talking to Kyle about your reaction to things in the past, that sounds like a fiancé problem.
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    notsoreligiousnow • 16h ago You do realize Kyle isn't the only problematic person here right? Your fiance enables his sh and never calls him out on it so of course Kyle keeps going and going. Immature or not, he's an AH. You sure you really want to marry a man that
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    won't prioritize you over his already peaked immature bestie?
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    knits2much2003 • 16h ago NTA but what are you going to do if your fiance draws a line in the sand? You have to be willing to cancel the whole wedding otherwise your fiance will have no respect for your boundaries going forward.
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    Cookiecloudz ⚫ 16h ago NTA - If Kyle's humor peaked in high school, maybe he should stay there and not crash a grown-up wedding. Vows aren't roast battles, and being "just Kyle" isn't a hall pass for disrespect.
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    Buttered Crumpe... • 16h ago Buttered_Crumpe... NTA. Tell your fiancé that enquiring minds would like to know what was funny about what Kyle said? Why it amusing for him to say, "Hahahahaha, OP cried during her abive and traumatic break up!
    via u/Buttered_Crumpet09
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    Remember guys? Let's hope she doesn't do the same thing when she says her vows, which is totes the same as a horrific and painful breakup! Get it!"
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